You can generally do well

[sdholloway56]

by following your father’s example of masculinity as just being against everything and suspicious of anything.

Few things are such an unreserved success that you can’t get away with just continuing grumbling.

[r3020]

Did your father just believe in menstruating men?

[Edmund55]

(Did your father just believe in menstruating men?)

[sdholloway56]

No, but in a time when most men would have spat on the ground and stormed off he held a somewhat nuanced view of homosexuality.

And don’t even go there- he was a very tough guy and there would be no question regarding his romantic feelings toward my Mother.

So I doubt he’d be an easy win for the focus groups that your handlers ran to detect The Final Frontier of Bigotry.

[r3020]

What does homosexuality have to do with menstruating men? Did he just believe gender is fluid? Did he just believe gender is nonbinary?

[sdholloway56]

Speaking of which, I’ll tell a family story.

My Dad was probably influenced by stories of his grandfather and great uncle who were captains of the IU and Purdue football teams around the turn of the century. Not that big of a deal- there were just som Ivy League profs who thought the schools needed football clubs and recruited strapping farm kids who had never seen one.

So anyway, the recent family luck held and my Dad arrived in Europe in time for a brief occupation tour. When he returned and enrolled at Purdue he followed his dream and tried out for the football team.

By then the teams were all full of hardened guys back from the war- a lot of them well into their 20s.

All he ever said was that now those WERE some tough guys.

[r3020]

So then did your dad just believe gender is fluid?