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Senior Contributor

"Give me money"

I' got an email appeal by farmdoc.com, the internet presence of the University of Illinois, asking for a tax-free donation.  I like their product and refer to it often, especially at this time of year since I think their material on crop insurance is the best around.

 

Last year, I responded to their appeal with a donation.  As a direct result, over the next months I was contacted by email and telephone from other, non-ag elements of the University of Illinois seeking donations.  I told them to take me off their list.

 

When I got the appeal this year, I emailed them back, told them that story, and suggested that they charge for their services.

 

The publication Iowa Farmer Today is also a free newspaper that is underwritten by it's advertisers, but several times a year comes around asking for $25 or so for 'mailing costs".  I have donated once or twice in the past but recently just pitch it.  If they need the money, they can charge me and see if I'll pay for their pub.

 

 A subcription to a professional journal is tax deductible to me, as well as a charitable donation is.

 

 I have a low boiling point when it comes to people badgering me for money.  Iowa Public Television used to do that, especially with requrests that implied you had not donated that year when you had.   Their recent begging has been a little more up front that ihey are asking for an "additional" donation.

 

So, I'm a miser and a skinflight.

 

 

 

 

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Re: "Give me money"

I hear you Jim.  It's amazing how a kind act can turn on a torrent of entities with their hands out during these times.  Makes you want to crawl into your bunker and hide.  I think that this trend is a first cousin of the current entitlement mentality that is so pervasive.

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Re: "Give me money"

If you don't like additional solicitations, don't agree to the first one. Did you read the privacy policy when you donated the first time? More than likely it allows your name to be given or sold to other members of the college or business partners. If you don't want to be bothered by anyone, staying on the computer where your info is mined is the last thing you should do.

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Re: "Give me money"

I donated $50 to the republicans one time and they spent at $200 trying to get another $50. Best fifty I ever spent. *Grins*

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Re: "Give me money"

wt, you're making my point.  Don't donate to anything to anybody.  Stay completely off the computer.  Crawl into the bunker.  I see Don has found another way to inject his tiresome politics.

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Re: "Give me money"

It's OK.  I voted in the Democratic primary for Hillary, knowing a Democrat certainly was going to be elected because of Bush's negatives, and she was a much better deal than Obama.  Since that time they have continued to solicit donations either by calling or sending stuff thru the mail.  So all-in-all it usually equals out, I've just never considered it from that view point.  Only down side is that I'm registered as a Democrat.

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Re: "Give me money"

Do not drive all that much anymore, but when I do, I like to listen to NPR where I can pick up a broadcast.  Most of the time, that is WUNC or one of tis affiliate stations around NE NC. 

Yesterday, I was stuck driving to a specialist in Greenville, ninety minutes from home, so three solid hours I wanted to listen, plus time between poiints on the trip....but it is fundraising week, so that is about all I heard.  I will wait for someone to match my donation, which some of the richer sponsors will do throughout the drive, and then call in my annual donation, which essentially doubles the money the station gets. 

I will pay $120 a year for the enjoyment and information I get from their programming.  I feel it is worth that much to me.  Generally, they include my yearly Newsweek subscription for the donation, and maybe a mug or tee shirt. 

Like you, I do not want anyone to assume that my money is a given, and I dare not get a "bill" for a donation.  I will write "HOW RUDE" across the "notice," and send it back in their pre-paid envelope. 

I heard a guy use precsiely that phrase one time, when a county employee was nagging him to do some free work on a recreation complex.  He said, "You know, the only thing worse than being hassled to stop working to support my family and work for you for free is getting a damned bill for a donation." 

I'd never heard it said that way, and I've never forgotten it.  When I give my money, time and/or energy, I expect it to be accepted as the gift it is to the recipient.  If not, I find someone who does. 

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Only this once, man!

Your story reminds me of another experience that most of us might relate to.  For many years while our children were still at home, we participated in many fund drives for church youth group projects and school related projects.  While at one such function, after having to purchase raw food products, make said products into pleasant, tasteful, enticing entre's that people would like to eat, then serving said products to hundreds of people and finally cleaning up the cooking utensils, silverware, glasses and cleaning the dining room tables, sweeping the floors and the entire fellowship hall.....after all of that effort, we stood in line to eat the left overs and "donated/paid again" for the cost of the meal that we prepared. 

 

My conclusion was, though I enjoy the social aspect of this type of function and enjoy doing the work, I've done it so many times that we no longer feel like anybody else is making that kind of effort, other than a couple of the parents of the other kids.  The kids aren't doing the bulk of the work, though some really pitch in, but we do it all.  We plan it, buy the food, cook it, prepare the table, clean up and then have to pay for the privilege of eating what we made.

 

At this point, I'm ready to give a bigger one time donation and forget about the exhausting work.  And don't come back again asking for more.

 

Donations to many worthy causes sometimes puts us into that same environment.  We begin to feel like that old milk cow that is getting pretty tired of being asked for another contribution.

 

 

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Re: Only this once, man!

My attitude toward charities was indelibly affected by an experience I had in Vietnam.  I was wandering through the market square of the equivalent of a county seat town when I saw boxes of clothes being sold.  They were still clearly marked Catholic Relief.  People had donated the clothes but the district chief had seized them and was selling them.  I only give now to charities where I have a very high level of confidence that the gift is used locally for a specific cause.  No more of my money going overseas.

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very good point

I agree as well.  My daughter-inlaw has worked with people connected with the Haitian relief and says the best way to make a contribution is to send money with people you personally know and trust them to direct the funds at the place of need.  We made a contribution with them and have supported specific people there. 

 

To think that the Red Cross has nearly 780 million dollars raised for Haitian relief and only a few million actually expended for the work to date, is very disturbing, to say the least.

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