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Back to the grind?

Mike tells me that I am " a different person" when we are away from the farm...laugh and smile more, not so on-edge. For the past three days, that person has had a chance to be out without a worry in the world.

We came to Jenna's on Wednesday. Work schedule in NC was light enough to let us take this break...SIL had days off to keep Winn on one of my days, his mom was scheduled for the other. I have missed him so much it hurts, but in truth, we did need to get away.

Mike has been wanting to return to Monticello and a huge orchard off the TJ Parkway. These are spots where he and Jenna enjoyed some of their best bike trips together. Last year was too soon, but this year, the apple variety they always went for was ripe, and everyone's schedule coincided with that, so off we went.

We left Jenna's after breakfast on Thursday morning, and by a little after eight that night, had done all the sights we set out to see. Instead of taking a room, and puttering around a second day in Charlottesville, we drove about an extra 90 minutes on back here.

Yesterday, Mike had to get worked in at our dentist, who is about 30 minutes away...we just never chose one in NC. He had been having sinus pain and then a severe toothache, which was part of our decision to get back closer to home. The extraction discomfort has been quite minor compared to the pressure pain he had been having. She wrote a Z- pack while he was there, so he is feeling MUCH better this morning, having finally had a solid night's sleep.

Friday, after his appointment, we decided to check out the historical park that was developed here in our home county, after we moved to NC. We had no idea what a huge development it was...most Civil War sites are woods with an interpretive trail. This one has multimillions of buildings, displays, theaters, and the National Museum of the Civil War Soldier. It was virtually empty, but hosts hundreds of guests daily during vacation months. I

If you are or are associated with a Civil War buff, it is most definitely a must-do visit.

We are puttering around this morning, putting apples in the crisper, laying down the bottles of wine we found on our travels. There are three flats of violas and Sweet William to stick in the ground, after this last shot of espresso, then we head back to the grind.

Winn has called his PaPa this morning, to say Hello. The duffle bags we packed are sitting by the door...didn't even need those! We both packed like we would be staying away for three days...our heads still haven't adjusted to the second home lifestyle all the way yet.

I look forward to seeing our sweet little buddy, and sharing apples around. What I don't want to do is lose the good mood that Mike says he so enjoys everywhere but home. I haven't said it to him. But he is often an irritable bear there, too.

My question to you more experienced travel types is this:How do you hold onto the relaxed attitude when you get home...or, is that just impossible?



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Re: Back to the grind?

It all depends on how you separate your "home" from the stress and everyday toxic thoughts you encounter. You've said that you talk business in NC, but not in VA over the dinner table. Maybe you two should place a mental boundary between the office and the home you live in at NC place. Business can be talked in the office, but the home is supposed to be where the heart is. You've used the distance between your vacation home and NC home to destress. Extend the rule. It can be done.

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Re: Back to the grind?

That's a good idea, and I know I have tried that many times in years past. It just never seems to stick, especially with Mike.
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PS

I read and posted that back on thecroad home. I asked Mike if he thinks we could keep business in the offices only. He wasn't too able to even grasp the idea.

I think you are right, but it will be an uphill battle. I will need to be the mindful one, redirecting conversations as necessary. Thanks for the thoughts.
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Re: Back to the grind?

Since you live where you work and your co-workers are your family members, it's probably unrealistic to expect to not discuss business at the home environment.

 

More realistic to keep the business out of the vacation home.  

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Re: Back to the grind?

LA, probably a more realistic assessment.

I think I didn't realize how the business permeates everything, until I started saying, "Let's drop it at the state line", as we headed from here to Jenna's house. Once you say that, and reach a sign that says you are crossing the line, it makes a difference. You become conscious of what I am starting to think of as cross-contamination.

I just flashed back to the top of my classroom teacher's desk. I used to tape it off in sections, labeling each one with a marker. That made me place papers to grade in one spot, attendance register in another, plan book, etc., all placed in set spots. Wouldn't it be so much easier, if we could compartmentalize the parts of our lives so simply?

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