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Senior Contributor

Re: DS medical

So very frusterated.  Need recent scans & report to be sent to Ia. City from Peoria and after several phone calls (I love the holiday music on the many "holds" I've encountered) Ia. doesn't have them & Peoria sent them. Cannot go ahead without them. AArgh!! 

 

In the meantime, I've talked to a few folks who say Northwestern in Chicago is excellent.  Looked up ratings on internet & so true.  And to top it off, DH is acting like a)everything will fall in place without any effort and b)we have all the time in the world on a fast growing tumor and b)he doesn't believe there is actually a tumor and c)doesn't want to talk in front of Brian.  Agree with c but the rest is about to throw me in the brink.  Oh, he went out deer hunting while I wait for the phone to ring.

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Honored Advisor

Re: DS medical

It seems to me that men are easier to postpone dealing with difficult issues, where you are taking this bull by the horns.

Meanwhile, I thought the whole point of having an Electronic Medical Record was do different propviders and practitioners coukd access the same patient's information readily. Most imaging is digital. So it is more of an email transmission that a physical moving of films, the eay it used to be.

Am I right about that? I swear, that is how my friend's medical informatics specialist husband explained it to me....
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Re: DS medical

I'm gonna be optimistic and hope it's just  someone in Ia. City not taking the time to check and see if the records were there.  Here's hoping you get the situation resolved.

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Re: DS medical

Many prayers my friend.  Lean on us as much as you need to. 

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update

Well I finally got the appointment set with Iowa City.  But all the time I was working on the calls I had this niggling question about Northwest in Chicago.  You might remember cousin's daughter who had liver transplant went there.  Ran into a gal undergoing brain surgery there.  Long story short, the recommendations from another local doctor saying they were one of the best in the country for brain & spinal cord.  Mentioned to mom & she remembered friends daughter was a neurosurgeon there. Mom called friend who called the daughter surgeon, who called me & offered to make appointment if we choose.  Actually is working at Cook County now but would refer us.  Gave me her personal phone number.

 

Felt like God was guiding us.  Problem is DH is dragging his feet at switching.  Two doctors have given high recommendations, internet search lists the departments we are seeing give NW higher points, and I feel why not go to the best?  Yes, an hour farther.  Yes, big city.  Yes, we have an appointment already but we know some of the original treatment they used can only be used once so . . ? He has said GO only because he feels I would blame if it goes badly.  I can certainly understand marriages that crack under such stress.  To me it's a no brainer.

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Re: update

I do hope this works out for you as I do believe it is an answer to your prayers. These things just do not happen. With cancer always go to the best place you can find is the rule. What is DS saying?  I will continue to pray for a good outcome.

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Re: update

Linda, I will continue to hope for the best for your son.

People will drive further out of the way than an extra hour for a special restaurant, or their favorite hairdresser.... For the best of the best in a medical medical specialty, that is quite reasonable. We females have more of a " leave no stone unturned" Mentality, be ause we never forgive ourselves if we feel we fall short of that mark.
Senior Contributor

Re: update

You have to do what you think is right.    I think sometimes DH (or at least mine) thinks if he ignores a problem it will go away. I could see him thinking the closer the better as it would disrupt his personal life the least. 

 

Continuing to pray for you.

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Re: DS medical

Prayers your way Linda, will be thinking of you guys this Holiday season and that all goes positive your way, some things do seem to be falling into place, a good sign.

HUGS your way
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Re: update

There are many places in life where we can cut corners.  Our health is not one of them.  Maybe sit down, non confrontational or judgemental, and ask your DH the real reason why he is resistant.  

 

My guess is that he is devastated and scared that there is another tumor.  By resisting the top hospital for treatment he is in denial that the problem has returned.  To agree to the hospital is to acknowledge the problem and the fears.

 

Follow your instinct and listen for Gods guidance in this.  I think you know what you have to do.  Put blinders on and walk straight to the best care.  Above all, develop a plan and follow it.

 

Praying your DH will come around and support you in this task you have before you.  Take care and let us know how things are going.