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ER & frustrations

I am at my wits end.  Our local hospital where I took mom to ER, doesn't have a gastroenterologist (sp?) this weekend as the one on call is on vacation until Monday.  His associate won't come to this hospital for some reason, for the last year.  They have been trying to get a dr. to come into the practice but none so far.  When I took her the other day, she was pretty good in the morning & with no liquids or food, didn't have any problem while there.  Just dehydrated.

 

Last night whenever  she tried to drink water & eat, she started in again.  This is so severe that she has rugs & towels throughout the house to the bathroom.  Had to go up at 11 p.m. to unplug her stool from all the paper.  Sorry so graphic.  The caregiver has another previous job on the weekend.  I have found another to fill in I think.  But I'm leaving Tues. with Brian for Chicago for 3 days for his tests.  That leaves Monday for her regular gastro dr.  I can go to the next hospital where the assoc. does work so I may do that today if things are still bad. 

 

Oh, and her regular GP is leaving on vacation for a week.  Probably gone by now.  He does have other dr. in the office.  One reason I'm getting nothing done is because I never know from one minute to the next if I'm running to her house or to the hospital.  And DB's girlfriend has planned a special weekend for "her man".  He only has a cell phone, as many do these days, and trying to talk to him is ridiculous.  He either has rotten reception, or she's on the speakerphone with him, or as last night- they are out to dinner or with friends.  What a deal.  Think I'll call & tell him his shift starts Tues.

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Re: ER & frustrations

I think that you should call your brother with graphic discriptions  during their  "special lovers  meal".    That should be great on the speaker phone.    I could certainly understand how he can't come at the drop of a hat.   But, he could sure call to talk to her  if that would help calm her for a while.    So glad you have been able to find some help.   Almost sounds like she should be admitted.  With her age and already having other problems  I'd think they'd want to keep her there and hooked up to an IV.    Good Luck Linda.   Glad it isn't me. 

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Re: ER & frustrations

Linda, hard as it might be, isn't it time for your mom to be living in a care facility? How long can you be expected to bear all of the responsibility? You have to focus on Brian and yourself. I Dont see how you can continue this way without it taking an irreversible toll on your own health.
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Re: ER & frustrations

Sorry, Linda. I re-read my first question above and realized it sounded harsh and I didn't mean it that way.

What I meant was...IS is perhaps time to consider assisted living as an option for your mom?

I'm not thinking too clearly these days...sorry.
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Re: ER & frustrations

It is hard to relate...not having even an MD on duty in the ER where we live, much less a specialist.

You need to secure help, and notify your brother that you will be attending to Brian's needs this week, I think, so he is responsible for your mother. I have the hardest time understanding how the people who do the least in life feel so entitled to time " off" from iwhat little they do.

More than three days of this is very dangerous for someone of your Mom's advanced age. Dehydration is very difficult to address, unless she is admitted for IV fluids, if she is that ill. She is at risk of numerous complications from low fluid volume.

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