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Kay/NC
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Purposely moving slowly?

Have been taking/ making time, last few trips to VA, to play a DVD set of Tai Chi instruction, over at the studio house. I really like this set of disks...the instructor is very good at explaining the slow movements , repeating them many times, from many different angles.

Today, in the comments section of the lesson, he remarked that people are ised to moving as fast as they can. It is very hard to slow down and move with purpose, instead of quickly. I know I used to tell kids in TKD that he poiht of the forms was not speed, but proper movement. Hard for our society to understand.

It is very hard to move very slowly, if you have spent your life in a hurry. I have done that for far too long.

Do you have anything in your life that you prurposely do slowly, ust so you can savor the experience?
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linda/IL
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Re: Purposely moving slowly?

Eating my favorite dessert?!  LOL  Savoring my coffee while watching the traffic on the distant interstate.  Enjoying that I'm in my cozy home while they are hurrying to get somewhere-many with many miles to travel. 

 

Enjoying an evening with friends or yesterday I spoke with my best friend from school who I see & talk to very rarely.  But it was like we never quit our last conversation. 

 

Cuddling with a grandchild-reading to them.  That's probably THE best.

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turkey feather
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Remember those new windows that we installed a year ago?  The mini blinds did not fit the new windows in my office so I can sit and watch the sun rise and set and the clouds as I have views south and east.I wish I had removed the mini blinds years ago.  I can watch the birds which I enjoy. I enjoy slowly riding around and looking at nature on my golf cart or we go for a ride in the Gator and enjoy the country side.  Hand Quiliting is a slow winter relaxer.

This one is crazy but while in the hospital someone sent me the find the work puzzle books. My comment was these are for old women. But I keep them in the car and they are the greatest time killer, especially in a hospital.  I pull the book out while DH is shopping etc.

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Kay/NC
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Please forgive me if I am in a mood!

Very wonderful thoughts. The cuddles are, indeed the best.

I am sort of beside myself these last few days. When I wrote about the end of the road with Jenna's wreck, I was misled. Realized that the insurance company rep was wrong, when she said I was in the clear a week ago last Friday.

Called my counsel's office last Monday, and learned he had similar reservations, because no one had managed to file a Motion to Dismiss the lawsuit seeking nearly two million dollars from me. The secretary confirmed that it would be necessary, and I have a clock ticking toward a default judgment against me, if we do not answer this complaint in time...unless it is dismissed.

The plaintiff's attorney had not contacted her back by this Monday, when I called again. That means I am still at risk...just for handling my daughter's estate. Two lawyers have told me I have no liability whatsoever, yet I sit with this contingent liability over my head.

I have called and received a call back from the claims agent. I basically told her this morning that, while they were in the clear, I was most assuredly not. If I needed a loan to stay in business right now, not a soul on Earth would give me one, given this claim against me. I expressed to her that this is an abuse of the legal process, which is, in itself, unethical and actionable. It is extortion, pure and simple.

I was informed that defense counsel, which in this case means the insurance company's staff counsel, has to file the Motion for Dismissal. I suggested that someone make that their reason for living TODAY.

Friends, never, Never, NEVER trust that someone else has taken your interests seriously enough. I have essentially a handful of days to clear MY name, against a claim that was simply meant to upset me enough to cause me to jar a check loose from a couple of big insurance companies.

Well, I am THAT upset now. One company's check has already been cashed. An inquiry is in the works on the other one. I have been told the motion will be handled, and communicated to my counsel by the end of business today. If I don't get a call from my counsel by then, tomorrow is going to be a weather change.

Meanwhile, this is waking me up in the wee hours,hanging over me like a guillotine blade waiting to fall. I feel like walking crud right now. No matter how much I swallow supplements that would sedate a packyderm, I wake up in a tizzy at two in the morning.

So, if I have been more prickly or argumentative than usual, this is why, and I apologize. I just need some peace, and cannot get it....
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turkey feather
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Re: Please forgive me if I am in a mood!

The lawsuit with my accident was our first such experience. To be on the side you are on would be much more stressful. I feel for you and I do hope it works out. The process is much different that one would expect. Everyone needs plenty of liability insurance these days. Good luck.

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Kay/NC
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Re: Please forgive me if I am in a mood!

The thing is, Turkey, I HAVE no legal lability in this context. I am being sued for administering her estate, which presents the administrator or executor with no risk whatsoever, or no one would ever do it.

This extortionary yactic was designed to make me scream bloody murder to the insurance companies. I have decided that if it's not concluded completely today, I will urge my counsel to file a response, to include action for abuse of process. If he won't fo it, I will find someone who will. Enough is dammit enough.



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turkey feather
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Re: Please forgive me if I am in a mood!

I understand your problem and that makes it all the more maddening. I was trying to say the court system has its own problems that need fixed.

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Kay/NC
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Re: Please forgive me if I am in a mood!

I cannot say that this is the fault of the court system. It is a sleazy tactic being foisted on me by a shady law firm. It is an abuse of the legal process, designed to upset me, so I would hammer away at the two insurance companies involved. <br><br>The problem is that the staff counsel fir ine of them is supposed to have filed a motion for dismissal of the lawsuit. As of today, which is eleven of my 21 days to file an answer, it had not yet been done. I gave them until tomorrow, and then I put my own motion into the mix. I expressed to the insurance claims agent today that no one would like it.
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linda/IL
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Re: Purposely moving slowly?

Back to the original question.  Went to a special mass tonight.  We had a group of nuns who presented singing & special prayers.  Followed by a mass, followed by another hour of Eucharistic adoration.  Over 2 hours of worship & it was beautiful.  Unfortunately all the snow kept many older folks home.  Anyway a great slow down.  BTW Kay I took Tai Chi until my knee bothered me.

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One thing I have really slowed down with is cooking. For years I was like my mom always was...hurry, hurry...rush rush...cook it, serve it, swipe the plates out from under the laggards, (lolol) wash, dry and put 'em away!! Make every step count...no wasted motion...

Ten years ago I FINALLY slowed down. I now enjoy preparing, serving and languishing over a meal.
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