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What is wrong...
...with saying, when you are moving ias fast as you can, in the direction your husband is calling you in, "Just give me thirty seconds?"
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What's wrong with leaving the back door/kitchen area to go do something in the livingroom after you have answered his question? Do I have to stand there in the kitchen within sight as long as he is at the door? Walked away to fold clothes and he yells for me so I can answer his next question.
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Probably the same problem as when I answered his question, he didn't hear the answer, so I raised my voice to a louder speaking tone, only to be told, "You don't have to YELL!"
The truth is, farmers are all about half-deaf, aren't they? Equipment and squealing pigs - throw in the chainsaw addiction here - and the volume on anything he listens to is near the top limit.
I know he reads lips a lot, and I was bent over the bottom drawer, putting away clean leftover containers, the first time I answered. The second itme, I just should have kept my voice at the same level, and faced him, so he could read me.
The thirty seconds thing was me coming to the table too slowly, when he was ready to eat. I was really moving as fast as i could, and I know it was pretty snailish. When it is all I can do, though, don't dog me!!!
At least we can still laugh at ourselves...later.
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NUMBER ONE PET PEEVE!!! People who will not talk to me. If you want to tell me something talk to me not the wall not the door not the mirror ME.
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I always wondered why women who have something 'important' to say, seem to lower their voice, so no one can hear it.
As for being able to wait 30 seconds, unless it involves rushing to stop bleeding somewhere, I don't think it is too harsh of a request.
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Not the case here at all...picture two people standing four feet apart in theitchen, with cabinet in between them. One (me) is emptying the dishwasher, and was asked where some particular plastic containers (not the ones I was putting away in the bottom drawer) are.
At the time I was asked, my head was almost at floor level. Since I had earlier been hurried to the point that I asked for an extra thirty seconds to make a traverse through the hallway into the dining room, I snapped to, and anwered immediately. This triggered the problem of him not able to read my lips, because I was fidgeting with lids and bowls down low.
I guess the combination of rising up and speaking louder, with no barrier in between us, was more volume all at once. I certainly wasn't "yelling".
I agree with you that looking away while speaking is not polite. Woould you agree that askgin a person who is already engaged in a task a question doesn't mean that they need to stop in the middle of it, when getting the answer isn't an emergency?
We are both fighting sinus problems right now, and the damned crackheads have made it impossible to get any of the pseudoephedrine that we have both realied upon for decades to knock that out. We are both toppling over from lack of balance, can't hear due to fluid in our ears, and are dealing with headaches, all of which we used to knock out with a cheap OTC pill.
The stupid part is, we ahve some, and are hoarding it like it is going ot keep forever. Sort of like putting the good china away and never taking it out to enjoy. I have just informed Mike that I am taking a dose this morning, and he should, too.
My right eardrum is pounding with my pulse right now, and I need to climb a ladder this morning, to store top pantry shelves, so I can call that cleanup finished. With a good shot of speed, I ought to get a lot done in a little while.
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I think the real problem, which I have explained above, is the sinus congestion we both are fighting, and the exhaustion we both feel from the kitchen being torn apart for well over a month.
On the kitchen situation, I gave son a list of things, in priority order for us to get back closer to normal, on Friday. Then, I stayed one step ahead, making sure the most important ones for letting me put things away got done first.
He still has the finish flooring and trim in the hallway between the kitchen and long pantry to do, and a water heater that another contractor has to install to close in, when he comes back. We are waiting on a new range hood for the woodstove kitchen to come off the production line, so he has to come back here in a few weeks anyway, to iunstall that and vent it through the roof.
I stepped up some cabinet work for the back room, so the things I store out there won't get so dusty, as they did on open built-in shelves. I have one small wall to paint this morning, so the odor dies down before Mike is in the house much.
Dust and odors are a real problem for our upper respiratory systems, but especially for him. I just made sure we both got that dose of Sudafed. After mine kicks in, I am cranking up the Animal, to reduce the dust that the construction has spread everywhere in this very open house. It's not bad, but it's bad enough to make us both cranky.
BTW, I know your wife is young; but, take a word from an old wife:Never rush a woman.
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I have sinus problems from time to time, aggrivated by allergies.
Lortradine seems to work the best, for the stuff that doesn't require a full body cavity search to be able to buy. Other stuff works well, too, but makes me drowsy. Lortradine doesn't do that until it wears off, about 12 hours later, and a catnap is often enough.
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Mike and I both take a dose of Loratadine daily. Sudafed is required when it kicks up a notch beyond that, as it has done this weekend. We got a really cold, windy day on Friday, and it has been a problem since.
We both got that dose this morning, and I am taking alarm calls, piddling around on the computer and back and forth putting things away in the house, during those. Mike calls after each one, to confirm that that alarm worked when he tripped it. I can already hear in his voice that his congestion is abating,and he sounds more chipper.
Two more and then I can open the paint can and get that utility pantry wall done. The plan for today is to have that painted, the shelves mounted and filled, and soap and towel dispensers hung, before suppertime. If I get started by noon, I can make it with time to spare.
May take another dose or two...I've asked him to take a quiet day and rest as much as possible. As a family, we are all pushing him to direct the action, istead of trying to do everything himself. That goes better some days than others.
We are both dealing with aging - poorly, it seems, lately.
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It is truly amazing what one can learn on this site. We have those same problems. I will admit to a hearing problem and I do read lips. But DH won't bend to make those consessions. With no answer, I frequently too walk away and finish what I am doing. He talks to me with his face away from me and wonders why I don't hear him etc.
I still say all men are alike after a certain age.